Relocating alone can be complicated enough but preparing for a long distance move tends to become even more complicated when family members enter the picture. Moving usually means cutting connections that you have formed over many years where you currently reside. Accepting change can be hard, especially for young kids. On telling kids that they have to move, they are likely to display emotions such as anger, denial, and even depression. To ensure that your entire family accepts and embraces the upcoming relocation, there are certain steps you can take, as you will see in the article below.
First, ensure that you inform all family members especially senior citizens of your planned relocation a long time before the actual move. Broach the topic of an impending move in a relaxed atmosphere, such as having dinner and asking all family members to say what they think about the idea. This will help you understand any potential problems you may need to address with each family member.
To make every member of your family feel that they will be an integral part of the relocation, ensure that you avoid making unilateral decisions on matters pertaining to the move. Ideally, you should consult your loved ones when making major decisions. For example, you should allow your kids many leeways when deciding what to keep and what to throw away.
At first, your kids may express strong opposition to the upcoming move, mostly because they are afraid of starting over in a new place. To make them more receptive towards their new home, consider compiling a detailed list of the fun things they are likely to experience and enjoy once you relocate. Ideally, your list should include things that your kids enjoy doing in the place you currently reside.
You can also make your family anticipate an upcoming relocation by involving them in searching for a new house. On identifying a great house, consider visiting the property with your loved ones a few times before the actual move to prepare it for habitation. Allow your kids to participate in tasks such as painting rooms so that they can ‘connect’ with the new environment. The initial visits that you make will help all family members acclimate to their new neighborhood and environment.
You should also avoid stressing your kids and elders with moving tasks. Since handling a DIY move over long distances can be a tiring venture, consider hiring senior citizen moving companies to assist with your relocation. However, you should set aside some of the moving tasks, such as packing personal belongings, to handle the entire family. If every family member participates, they will feel more involved in the entire process. Handling some moving tasks together will also give your family a good time to bond.
It is also best that you make memories with your family members in your current home, especially if you have resided there for a long time. For example, in the weeks preceding the relocation, you can take your family out to dinner in their favorite eateries or visit all your favorite haunts. Whenever you or your loved ones start to miss your old residence after relocating, you will have fond memories to look back on.
Remember that kids tend to form attachments quickly, and breaking the connections they have formed abruptly can have a huge psychological impact. For this reason, you should ensure that you give your kids enough time to process the upcoming move. Additionally, you should take steps to ensure that they get closure before moving. A great way to do this is to plan a farewell party. It would help if you then asked your family members to invite their closest friends to the party.
To avoid making your kids feel like they are getting a fresh start in their new home, ensure that you make plans on how they can still connect with the friends they will be leaving behind. With the many social platforms, arranging ways for your kids to reach out to their buddies is relatively easy. For example, you can contact fellow parents in the neighborhood and collect contact details and social media handles. If your kids can still connect to persons that they hold dear, they will know that there is still a connection with the life they were used to despite the distance. Additionally, it would help if you also considered making plans on how close family members and friends to your kids can visit you in your new home once you relocate.
Lastly, remember that moving to a new location comes with its own set of challenges. Starting life in a new location is never easy for adults, making it harder for young kids. If you notice that your kids are opposed to the relocation, you may need to get assistance from a professional counselor. Counseling can help your entire family get over any psychological issues that may arise during the relocation process.